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1. Did scrappy hit Ericka P? He is even more wack than I thought.

2. Why is Joseline surprised that Stevie cheats? She was the original side chic?

3. I believe Benzino set up the shooting. If this was a real crime he wouldn’t be able to talk about the details.

4. Benzino is so very lame. It’s irritating that he’s capitalizing on the shooting. It’s pathetic that Benzino is so desperate.

5. Ho-Thea is in the relationship for the come up. I don’t like her. This relationship is sickening. Does anyone believe in this couple? She smacked the honey, on my Stevie J voice. She too was on the bus.

6. Can you keep a Secret? I want the deep purple hair like Katheela. (If I didn’t have to go to work, I would get it). It’s fashion, right?

7. Tony really allows his woman to cheat. I believe this relationship is dysfunctionally real. (I’m so confused on the cheating)

8. Waka – I actually teared up about the court house ceremony with Waka. I love, love!

9. Deb is really hurt about this wedding. Lol… She’s has to get a life. Why is she mad? She needs a man.

10. Where did crazy ass Momma Dee come from? Is she really consoling Erika.

11. Erika P. Poor soul. I don’t like women to act victimized. I mean Erika, why did you think Scrappy was your real friend? Scrappy preys on hurt women looking to come up, hence he stringed Shay along for 2 seasons.

This episode had my face screwed the entire time. I won’t believe this is reality TV. This is just Mona Scott’s way hire cheap labor. It reminds me of the outsourcing in IT to India, say thing!

Kenya wants Porsha fired from Bravo’s #1 rated Housewives franchise.

Yank, Pull, and Slam are the words that I use to describe the altercation between Kenya and Porsha (that was not a FIGHT, IJS). It was crystal clear that Kenya Whore Moore (as said by Phadera) provoked Porsha so that she can be fired from Bravo. There’s no way Kenya should have been allowed to bring those non working props on set. What did Bravo think was going to happen? Are they not taking into account their role in this situation? A person can only take so much. Porsha was demeaned, disrespected, and provoked. She should not be penalized for protecting herself in a hostile and threatening situation. Porsha’s normal demeanor is calm and welcoming. She’s not confrontational or aggressive as some of the women on the show. I mean let’s be clear, what Porsha did to Kenya is just about the same as what Sharee Whitfield did to Kim outside of the restaurant in the earlier seasons of RHOA when she attempted to snatch her wig off outside of a local Atlanta restaurant. What bothered me the most was Andy telling Porsha that she has to apologize. Why in the @@@@ would she need to do that. This is very unsettling to me. It takes a bigger person than me to apologize when I don’t believe I was at fault and I don’t mean it. I don’t believe this is something I would do even if my career at Bravo depended on it. The only thing Porsha should apologize for is not finishing what she started.

Hey Porsha girl,
I’m very proud of you. A person can only take so much. Next to Cynthia, you have taken the most @@@@ from the ladies on the show. From day one you have always had to explain why you were loyal to Kordell and why you had the Stepford wife mindset. Then you had to explain why you rented such a big house with no real income. It amazes me how you were able to remain composed and keep such a positive attitude when your cast members and the world judged you for not knowing basic African American history. That’s a lot even for us strong women. The fact that the Yank, Pull, Slam occurred was a set up by Bravo to get ratings. You were set up by “the man”. Please stop crying about it and don’t apologize to Kenya, because if you do you are going to hate yourself for it. Ask Kandi, she refuses to have a sit down and reunite with her former Escape band member over words she spoke to the media years ago. Sometimes it’s just principal…
Love ya girl,
Ms. Quisha

Kenya Moore planned to get Porsha Stewart Williams fired from Bravo’s #1 rated Housewives franchise.

Yank, Pull, and Slam are the words that I use to describe the altercation between Kenya and Porsha (that was night a FIGHT, IJS). It was crystal clear that Kenya Whore Moore (as said by Phadera) provoked Porsha so that she can be fired from Bravo. There’s no way Kenya should have been allowed to bring those non working props on set. What did Bravo think was going to happen? Are they not taking into account their role in this situation? A person can only take so much. Porsha was demeaned, disrespected, and provoked. She should not be penalized for protecting herself in a hostile and threatening situation. Porsha’s normal demeanor is calm and welcoming. She’s not confrontational or aggressive as some of the women on the show. I mean let’s be clear, what Porsha did to Kenya is just about the same as what Sharee Whitfield did to Kim outside of the restaurant in the earlier seasons of RHOA when she attempted to snatch her wig off outside of a local Atlanta restaurant. What bothered me the most was Andy telling Porsha that she has to apologize. Why in the @@@@ would she need to do that. This is very unsettling to me. It takes a bigger person than me to apologize when I don’t believe I was at fault and I don’t mean it. I don’t believe this is something I would do even if my career at Bravo depended on it. The only thing Porsha should apologize for is not finishing what she started.

Hey Porsha girl,
I’m very proud of you. A person can only take so much. Next to Cynthia, you have taken the most @@@@ from the ladies on the show. From day one you have always had to explain why you were loyal to Kordell and why you had the Stepford wife mindset. Then you had to explain why you rented such a big house with no real income. It amazes me how you were able to remain composed and keep such a positive attitude when your cast members and the world judged you for not not knowing basic African American history. That’s a lot even for us strong women. The fact that the Yank, Pull, Slam occurred was a set up by Bravo to get ratings. You were set up by “the man”. Please stop crying about it and don’t apologize to Kenya, because if you do you are going to hate yourself for it. Ask Kandi, she refuses to have a sit down and reunite with her former Escape band member over words she spoke to the media years ago. Sometimes it’s just principal…
Love ya girl,
Ms. Quisha

Being a native ATLien I take my RHOA seriously. I tune in weekly on time to catch the latest ratchet-ness. The news over the week about Porsha having to turn herself in caught me off guard. There is no way I said, that violator, the bully, Miss Kenya Whore, (according to Phadera) called the police on Porsha. There is no way that Kenya Whore, the one who stirred up the most conversation about Porsha and Kordell’s beard type relationship all season, every chance she got, called the police because Porsha, according to other blog sources, kicked her @$$. There is absolutely no way!

My thoughts are this, being from the inner city as people like to refer to it (a.k.a. Da Hood), when you are bold enough to point things in peoples faces, talk bad to them, attempt to make them seem stupid, you are asking for a cat fight. The rules of the hood states that no one shall call the PO PO’s during a cat fight especially if you started it. The rule also states that we must allow the baddest ‘ish to win and then we should all go home. Drop the charges against Porsha, Kenya!

A personal message to Kenya
Hey Kenya, you lost boo. It’s ok. Porsha has been quiet for two years and allowed you to belittle her. I’m so sorry she allegedly had an out of body experience and reached out and touched someone. You violated several hood laws and for that, you were punished. Kenya girl, here is a little bit of advice to you from one Sista Girl to Another:

1. Leave people alone. If you don’t want to be handled physically then don’t point things at people. You are violating the space law. I also recommend that you take a defense class because if you keep this up, I believe you may need these skills.
2. Get some real friends, paid workers don’t count (Miss Lawrence and Brandon). Kenya, where are your homegirls? Everyone has shown their friends on the show except you. Word on the street is you don’t have any. I don’t trust a woman without any friends. That’s an indicator that you might be shady.
3. Go to therapy. I’m so tired of you crying over your relationship with your mom. I’m not convinced the story you tell about you saw her growing up and she never acknowledged you is all the way true. I think you are reaching for a story line. Talk to the therapist about why Velvet (the dog) was your best friend too.
4. Give up on finding a man and focus on you. All of your relationships are mysteries. You tried to pay Walter and that didn’t work, now you are propositioning African royalty to play your man. Hey Kenya, that secret man storyline has already been played on the RHOA. *remember Kim and Big Poppa?
Alight then girl, catch up with me later.
Miss Quisha

The first episode of RHOA airs tomorrow and I will be tuned in.

Every year parents shell out hundreds of dollars for “PROM” attire, accessories and transportation. Breaking the bank so that our sons and daughters fit in with this over popularized event. (Even me) My issue with it is that the main purpose of the event was to be a simplistic evening teaching kids how to have good manners before leaving college. Of course it has spread to the high schools and now pre-k kids are going and having dates. STOP it please.
Save that wasted money for tutors, music lessons, summer programs, family vacations, etc. it’s up to us to stop foolish, made up traditions. Take the idea of PROM back to it’s origin.. Oh last one, who is responsible for teaching the kids about etiquette at these events? I know it didn’t happen at my prom.

Earlier this week, the iconic Beyonce Knowles posted a picture on her social media sites wearing a pixy cut. Many have said that this image would spark a Pixie cut fad around the world with ladies who follow her trend and also want a Nu Look. While I like the Pixie cut, and have worn it myself in the past, I have to wonder if she cut her hair because she wanted a Nu Look or was it because she needed to in order to obtain a healthy mane. We all know Beyonce and most celebrities wear weaves and wigs in place of their natural hair to quickly change styles and to relieve the natural hair from the pressures of daily styling. My concern is that the sudden changes in celebrity looks have caused us “regular” girls to want to obtain the same looks. The down fall of this is that, us “regular” girls are not maintaining our natural hair and it is causing us to become bald in specific areas of our head, loose our edges completely, our hair is extremely dry and brittle, etc. The overall health of our natural hair has demised and this is affecting other areas of lives like our wallets and our self esteem.

Wearing a weave should be like wearing a pair of earrings, it is an accessory not a replacement for your natural hair. Many of us wear it for different reasons. I have had debates with people who tell me that black women wear weaves because we want the European look, that we are not satisfied with our natural hair. I am not sure if this is true but I do  know from personal experience that wearing my weave allows me to feel even more beautiful, more powerful, and sexy. I enjoy wearing it because it gives me an option to be different and to express my creativity. With all those benefits, I still love my natural hair and I aim to take care of it.

For all of you out there that love wearing weaves like I do, I want us to educate ourselves on the downstream effects of repeated weave installations and how we can prevent our natural hair, our glory from falling out. There will come a time when the weave fad is over and I do not want us to be left bald, broke and depressed.

Tips on wearing a weave and maintaining healthy natural hair

  • Do not install a weave if your hair is already damaged. Find alternate styles for your hair such as wigs. This is important because when your hair is damaged and weak it is imperative that you do not put pressure on it from weaves that tug and pull at the roots of your hair. Hair that is damaged breaks very easily.
  • Change your weave often. If you enjoy wearing a weave, then change it often. As a rule of thumb, try and not wear a weave for longer than 8 weeks. Within 8 weeks of wearing your weave, your hair has grown, the braids have become loose, and your natural hair needs to be treated.
  • Take a break from wearing a weave. It is important that you give your natural hair at least a 2 – 4 week break between weave installs. Your natural hair needs an opportunity to rejuvenate from the pressure from the weave. Think about it, when you have a weave installed, your natural hair is braided, then a thick string of thread is used to tie the weave into your natural hair. Then the string is pulled tightly so the weave will stay locked in place. Your natural hair is under extreme stress from the weave installation.
  • Wash and condition the weave and your natural hair when the weave is installed. It is so important to continue to treat your natural hair when a weave is installed. You should wash and condition your hair and sit under a dryer to ensure your natural hair drys throughly. Natural hair that is not dried completely when a weave is installed will rot and smell. This causes damage to your natural hair and the weave.

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The Game has been on TV for three season’s now and I am struggling to keep up with the story line. It appears that with the change in the network the writing has diminished. What was once a quality show has now turned into a stereotypical urban betrayal of how America see’s brown people. Do you have an issue with this? Every week I struggle with whether or not to support the show or to start a The Game boycott because I think the storyline is sub-par.

Let me be fair, is the show entertaining, I think so. However, the new characters have not captivated my attention like I would have hoped. Lauren London, Lil’ Wayne’s baby mama, you remember her, she was NuNu in the Movie ATL, with T.I. has not done a great job playing the role. It appears that she is struggling to convince me that she deserves to be on T.V. Her acting stretches my patience in this role and many Tuesday nights I am dozing off because she is boring. The new guy who plays the character Blue, I have not figured out yet what the hype has been about him. He is easy on the eyes, and I enjoy watching him however, that’s about it. I get that The Game had to find a replacement relationship for Melanie and Derwin but these two (Keira and Blue) just are not cutting it. Their relationship feels fictitious (Yes, I know it is TV). I am watching the show and thinking, “This would never happen in real life”.  I feel the same way about Chardanay “Brandy” and Jason Pits. Can you please tell me where a bar tender mets a wealthy ex-ball player, marrys him in one night and they live happily ever after. Maybe I am being hard on the show, but the writing needs more diversity. What once was a show that I was proud of, and you all voted back on TV, I am now starting to regret.

Tasha Mack, is it just me, or has she gotten more ratchet since the show is on BET? I do not understand it. Prior to the show being taken off the air, Tasha Mack represented the single mother who turned her situation into a positive. She was a hard-working woman who managed her son and was about building an empire. Now since the show is on BET, we have not seen her managing any clients, her story line is all about her participating in love triangle with her child hood love and an ex NBA star. Tasha is being portrayed as a 2 timing woman confused about what love is. Tasha’s career is playing second to her manipulating the men in her life. I get it, Tasha Mack has arrived. She is reached the success she longed for and now it is time for Tasha to find love. I understand it, Tasha has always lost in the game of love and finally, she is winning.

I am struggling right now, I do not know whether to Watch It or Record It. I think I will Record It for now. What do you think?

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For many years, to have a visible tattoo in the work place was avoided. People went through great lengths to cover them up. Long sleeve shirts to cover the arms,  pants year round, long hair, all in an attempt to to hide this part of themselves. I was taught that at work you carry yourself in a professional manner, and professional people do not have tattoos. Getting a tattoo was not seen as an act of creativity or  the freedom of expression; people who had tattoos were stereotyped as being rebels, outcasts, entertainers or of a lower class. Well like everything else, this new generation, the one of which I am on the cusp of being a part of, has changed the way the professional world view tattoos. Today, in more non traditional work environments that are generally innovative and cutting edge, to see a tattoo is normal and it does not define your role in the organization or determine your class or level of intelligence.

When I started in the IT (Information Technology) industry in the late 90’s, I worked for a Fortune 500 company. This company had over 10K employees. This company was so large that depending on the department you were a part of the culture could would vary. As an IT person, I was always around very techie, artistic, non comformist people, however, they operated on a politically correct creed and you never saw a tattoo. At this time, I am 21 and I already have 1 hidden tattoo. As the years progressed, and my work started to define me, not a stereotype; as with most Generation X’ers, my views were socially diverse and I began to rebel against the once acceptable behavior that singled people out who wanted to be free to express themselves. At the age of 27, I got my second tattoo. I am nervous at this point, looking for clothes that would hide my tattoo; I was ready to take on the corporate stereotype but not really. With limited articles of clothing to hide my tattoo, I stopped caring. I started thinking, “to hell with the people who judge me”. As the tattoo began to show and the comments began to roll in, I started to take a stance and would respond, “Yes, there is a tattoo on my back, now what?” It seemed that once I silenced the elephant in the room, there was nothing left for the people to say.

Today, working at a faced-paced start up, I have gotten a third tattoo, and I am loving it. I am no longer trying to defend my right to express myself and I love that. I am known for who I am and not what I have on my body. I do not ever think I can go back to a stuffy, corporate environment with shirts and ties.  I love that I work in a place where the guy interviewing you has a sleeve of tattoos. I love this new way to work where collaboration and Thinking Right is the goal. Where you are who you are. Where race or background does not matter, it is all about adding value. So whether you choose to have no tattoos, or tattoos over your entire body, know that tattoos are acceptable in the workplace, so find a place that allows you to be you.

** Disclaimer – some industries are behind the times and do not allow tattoos and I understand that, this is why I do not work in any of those industries. I am not encouraging or supporting the tattooing of minors. This article is meant for adults only.

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Tyrese Gibson has done it yet again with his short film about his life. I love this guy. From his first gig in the Coke commercial to his amazing personality and acting in films like John Singleton’s Baby Boy, and the Fast and Furious movies. Tyrese’s humbling spirit and his humility is what draws me in with him. His desire to dedicate his life to hard work, being an independent artist, to family and friends. Tyrese has had an amazing career and I enjoyed watching it back on film. Check it out here and tell me what you think.
A Black Rose that grew through concrete

For the past few years, we have heard that identity theft was on the rise. Until it happens to you, you are unaware of the impacts and how it feels for someone to take possession of your most valuable assets. To have someone steal your identity for the purposes to commit fraud is an empty feeling. Your name, your ssn#, the number you were assigned at birth that allows the world to identify who you are.

Recently, this happened to me. The sad thing about this is that had I not listened to the small voice inside my head, the one that woke me up from my sleep and told me to do my own taxes this year I would have never found out. The Holy Spirit is powerful.

Many times when we think of identity theft, we think about people stealing our bank account information, our credit cards and we expect to find out about the crime will immediately. We assume that there is a traceable record back to the criminals who have frauded us. I have had to learn this is not true. Today, I am a victim of Tax Identity Theft. This type of identity theft is affecting many people and they have no idea. Every year we file our taxes and assume it has been processed and keep it moving, until we find out a year later when a large tax bill comes to your house or you can not file taxes the next year that there has been an issue.

Checking in with the IRS and your state tax office is a good precautionary measure this year to ensure you are in good standing. You may never know for a long period of time if you have been victimized unless you reach out and investigate. The sad thing about this tax identity theft is that the criminals are most often never caught. You are one if millions that this happens to therefore he likelihood of anyone being investigated and prosecuted is slim.

Five Steps to take if you have been a victim of tax fraud:

1. Notify the IRS – Notifying the IRS is a painful process. They may have you on the phone for 3 hours, however you must wait so that you can understand your situation. Ensure you document the operator number that assisted you. It is important to request all of the documents by number that you need to complete and submit.

2. Notify the Department of Revenue in your State – just like the Feds the state department needs to be noticed as well when you have an issue.

3. File a report with the local Police department – even if you have no idea who frayed you, file a police report anyway. You never know what information the local police department may have. You are a tax payer and it is your duty to file a police report.

4. Notify the credit bureau – either set up an account with each of the credit bureaus or call their office. Place a fraud alert on your account. This will allow the credit bureaus to watch your account more closely. This will also avoid companies from running soft pull reports and inquiries on you.

5. Trust no one with your personal information. Learn to do your own taxes or get them processed for free at your local IRS office.

We have got to stop this crime!

For more information visit <a href=”http://http://www.irs.gov/uac/Newsroom/IRS-Combats-Identity-Theft-and-Refund-Fraud-on-Many-Fronts“>Identity Theft Information